Donna Ryan / Lifestyle & Retirement

There To Understand

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We have too many high sounding words and too few actions to correspond with them”—Abigail Adams

The English language has many words that sound the same but are spelled in different ways and with a switch of a few letters give it an entirely different meaning.   Just this afternoon sitting at my computer typing this post I am concentrating to be sure I am using the correct form of there and to in my title.

With so many choices is it any wonder we get misunderstood.

Abigail Adams is correct.  Actions speak louder than words.

Human nature forces us to believe our opinion or point of view is the correct one.  I think we can all agree no matter of our differences everyone wants their feelings validated and understood.  Unfortunately words when not used correctly cause pain and conflict.

There will always be differences of opinion.  Life would be boring if everyone shared the same values and point of view.   It takes work but it is possible to agree to disagree and reach a common ground.  We need to simply listen and respect opinions.

If I offend anyone with words it is irrelevant if it was not my intention to do so. Feelings are true and if a person thinks a certain way they are entitled.  I do not have to agree with how the person feels but I am responsible for acknowledging their feelings.  So many arguments could be avoided if we stopped and looked at things from all sides.

When you look at images through a magnifying glass the object does not change however the perception is altered.  It is possible to magnify words to make them larger in order to get everyone on our side.    Our thoughts create our actions.  The answer to the problem is eliminating taking sides in the first place by changing how we view others opinions versus magnifying the differences.

A touch, hug, smile, and a kiss are things we all can understand.  I hope one day we can stop giving others a piece of our minds but instead live in peace.

I pray protesting, fighting and wars stop.

I need to remind myself how fragile days are and take the advice of Abigail Adams and use more loving actions versus complicated words.  We can all accomplish this if we are willing to stop speaking and instead listen, smile, hug and show up with the intention to be there to understand.

Editor’s Note:  Visit AFL member Donna Ryan at her website:  She says, “I have always thrived on inspiration. I love reading it everywhere I can find it. I am 55 and it has been a journey with many twists and turns. I invite all 50+ women to join me in discussions on this second chapter. Our road ahead is fun and exciting because these truly are the best days of our lives.”

I thrive on inspiration; I read it every day and I try to live and share it through my actions. Stepping out of our comfort zone can be very frightening. I have learned that I will never grow if I don’t face fear! I encourage all women to join me on this sometimes weird and scary adventure. Let’s discuss all sorts of things from makeup colors, to recipes, books, funny jokes and everything in between. We are on this journey together so let’s gather around and share our stories, dreams, and goals as well as happy and sad times too. You name it; we can do it! We are fifty something and these are the best days of our lives. No matter what the circumstances you are living you are only a keystroke away from friends that care! So join the circle of the 50plusstickingtogether friendship chain. Let’s keep learning, growing and inspiring each other together. It’s Never Too Late!!! Visit AFL member Donna Ryan at her website:

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