Dating
What NOT to Eat on a First Date
♫ Food glorious food. Hot sausage and mustard ♫ I have an expression, “definitely NOT first date food,” that I’ve said often. Nothing kills romance like the proverbial spinach on one’s teeth. So, grab a messy snack, sit back, and enjoy this read! Coffee! Yep you read that right. No COFFEE DATES! First, it says that the other person isn’t willing t...Read More
Are You Being “Reeled In” by a Catfish?
By now I hope that you’ve read my last post on “How To Spot a Scammer” but maybe, somehow, your radar missed it. You find yourself actively chatting with someone but perhaps you’re a little suspicious? It’s obvious that English is not his first language but you’ve decided to overlook that, perhaps you even find it endearing. He’s telling you how b...Read More
How To Spot a Scammer – AKA Catfisher! My 5 Signs!
In the online dating world, scammers are called “Catfishers” and they are all over the dating sites. To “catfish” means to lure someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. They target everyone and you don’t have to be rich or dumb to fall victim to them. The common denominator is that you are online looking for love, which ...Read More
My Kids Give Alice a Tough Time
Dear “Oh Carol:” My former wife and I share custody of our two teenage daughters. I’ve met a wonderful woman (Alice) but things are getting difficult. My daughters treat Alice horribly. I’m afraid that if I punish them they’ll hate me – and if I don’t, that Alice will leave. What should I do? AFL’s OH CAROL Answers...Read More
5 Tips – Writing Your Dating Profile
Thinking about writing your dating profile? I could tell you stories ad infinitum about crazy things I’ve seen on profiles and spelling errors that make this writer’s eyeballs spin. I can’t stress enough the importance of getting it right. This is the very first impression someone will have of you. Don’t mess it up! ♫ gotta be cool, relax, get hip...Read More
Your First Phone Call? 5 Do’s and Don’ts
You’ve texted or messaged one another a few times and determined that you’d like to hear each other’s voices. This could make or break it for some people. So here are some tips on what TO say and what NOT to say: TONE OF VOICE (TOV) Have you ever answered your phone only to be met with “Oh hi”? as if you’re the last person they want to hear from? W...Read More
First Date? 5 Tips, 1 Chance – and a Great, First Impression!
So, you’ve had a few phone calls and you both agree to take the next step and meet. The “where” and “when” have been decided and all that’s left to do is show up. HOW you show up and the first thing your date sees is oh so very important. To make sure you make as good a first impression as possible, read on and follow these essential tips: ...Read More
Our Love/Hate Relationship With Online Dating
In a recent Consumer Reports study, Melissa Emsley had been using online dating apps for five years, and like any new user, she was hopeful. Emsley explains, “When you get your hopes built up … to meet the right person and then that chemistry is just not there. It can be discouraging.” And Melissa’s not alone. In Consumer Reports’ survey, res...Read More
Gym Gossip? Not for Me!
Dear “Oh Carol:” My husband retired recently and now goes to the gym several times a week. He’s also making some new friends there and frankly, I’m very pleased about it all. Except for one thing. One of his new friends is widowed and he had a girl-friend who he treated poorly. She left him and now he’s playing the field. My husband come...Read More
New At This!
Dear “Oh Carol,” I am about 7 months away from a divorce. We were together for 3 yrs. I realized it was a mistake after the first year…when she drained my bank account…I guess because I am so loving and kind. I didn’t see it coming. so now I am at the age of 63, alone again. I do own my own home and my new truck is paid for. now what…I ...Read More
Baby Boomers Are Having More Sex Than Millennials
Pre-marital sex has never been more tolerated than among youth, but millennials are having less sex than their baby-boomer parents, a study has revealed. A survey of 33,000 people published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that 58 per cent of those surveyed in 2012 thought premarital sex was acceptable compared to 44 per cent in 2004. In 19...Read More
Which – Scamming or Flattering? How to Tell?
Dear “Oh Carol:” I was shopping at Costco and saw some snow boots I thought would be great for my son (he lives in Norway). So, I’m inspecting them and up comes a guy, probably 10 years younger than me (I’m in my early 60’s) and he starts talking to me. Great boots, great price, well made, and on and on. I’m wondering wha...Read More