Dear “Oh Carol:”
My neighbor’s husband died almost a year ago. She’s in her early 70’s and is not very computer savvy – although she does do some limited email. She and I and a couple of other women go out to eat every other week and I know she goes to the gym a couple times a week. Her daughter and her family live kind of close – but she really hasn’t gotten out much at all. I personally think it would be great if she could meet some dating material. But – there’s a part of me that thinks I should mind my own business and I’m confused about whether I should even discuss this with her. So, if you think I should discuss this with her, how could we get her to meet some nice men?
Speak Up or Clam Up
AFL’s OH CAROL Answers……
Dear “Speak Up or Clam Up:”
Not to sound rude, but, REALLY?
First of all, it hasn’t even been a year yet. If she was with this man most of her life, I am sure she is still very sad and lonely, but not yet lonely for a NEW man. She is still singing “You’re still the one” and you want her to sing a different tune. Give her a break!
I’m curious – do you and the other women that you dine with date? Are you all single? Aren’t some of your dinner discussion about dating? I am sure when she is ready she will start asking questions about it.
It sounds as if she is doing fine socially – hitting the gym and dining with you and the others. I say “Let it be,”
In the words of the late, great Ann Landers – MYOB!
Yours 4 love,