Dear “Oh Carol:”
My neighbor’s husband died almost a year ago. She’s in her early 70’s and is not very computer savvy – although she does do some limited email. She and I and a couple of other women go out to eat every other week and I know she goes to the gym a couple times a week. Her daughter and her family live kind of close – but she really hasn’t gotten out much at all. I personally think it would be great if she could meet some dating material. But – there’s a part of me that thinks I should mind my own business and I’m confused about whether I should even discuss this with her. So, if you think I should discuss this with her, how could we get her to meet some nice men?
Speak Up or Clam Up
AFL’s OH CAROL Answers……
AFL’s “Oh Carol,” Carol Ziegler
Dear “Speak Up or Clam Up:”
Not to sound rude, but, REALLY?
First of all, it hasn’t even been a year yet. If she was with this man most of her life, I am sure she is still very sad and lonely, but not yet lonely for a NEW man. She is still singing “You’re still the one” and you want her to sing a different tune. Give her a break!
I’m curious – do you and the other women that you dine with date? Are you all single? Aren’t some of your dinner discussion about dating? I am sure when she is ready she will start asking questions about it.
It sounds as if she is doing fine socially – hitting the gym and dining with you and the others. I say “Let it be,”
In the words of the late, great Ann Landers – MYOB!
Yours 4 love,
Carol
