A recent report in the UK Telegraph said that working-age adults are having less sex. It also indicated that one group is doing it more. You probably guessed it––retirees. The report stated that 29 percent of retirees have sex more than 11 times a month while for those working full-time it is only 24 percent and part-timers 20 percent. The myth of retirees being boring old fogeys is being shattered.
The other day we also read an article about the sexual habits of the Japanese. Apparently, sex has become very low on people’s priority with 50% of adults in Japan rarely having sex. Low rates of sexual activity and an aging population means that its population will diminish by a third in the next 50 years. Studies in westernized countries indicate a similar sexual pattern, where retirees do it more, while those actively working, do it less. So today we have Retirees’ Liberation where they are more sexually active as opposed to Women’s Liberation in past decades.
We have spoken to many retiree groups and there is an interesting phenomenon taking place––if you are under 30 you may want to stop reading here. Because women outlive men, this statistical imbalance really does favor the men––they do need some benefit for their shorter lifespan. We are hearing of single retired men having multiple female sexual partners. Retirees are quite open about the raunchy lifestyle of some of their peers. In one case, a man has one partner on Monday, Wednesday and Friday with another on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. We were told of another man who was having sex with three partners on a regular basis.
In 1946, when the first group of baby boomers were born, life expectancy was 64, today it is 82. Many retirees are living into their 90s and they are also free of the constraints of their work life. So there are more years of life to enjoy. Retirees are fitter than ever, they are generally healthier, they have a positive outlook on life and are open to enjoy life’s pleasures including sex. Of course, some are using Viagra and hormonal supplements in being sexually active. Sex itself conveys many benefits including increased longevity, a preventative effect against dementia and greater intimacy.
In the past seniors having sex was almost frowned upon; today it is much more acceptable and we say it should be encouraged and celebrated. So to the young ones we say, “Get over it”.
Editor’s Note: Dr Adele Thomas, semi-retired medical doctor and Dr Ely Lazar, retired chiropractor, are on a new mission as the Passionate Retirees. They are dedicated to inspiring the over 50s to live fulfilling and adventurous lives, so that “the twilight years will be the highlight years”. Their book, “Travel Secrets For Seniors” was released in early 2014. With more than 80 years combined of professional experience, their articles, books and workshops cover a range of topics from travel, health, relationships, sexuality and finances for seniors.