I remember growing up in the 1950s with TV programs such as “Leave It To Beaver” and “Ozzie and Harriet” where mom, dad, and the kids led happy lives. There was no divorce, drug taking, mental illness or sex. It was a very sanitized view of life that wasn’t real, but it reflected the times. Of course, life is not that way.
There is a mental health condition referred to as bipolar, also known as manic-depressive disorder. People who have this condition fluctuate in mood swings from mania to severe depression. This can be a very debilitating condition. But, bipolar also has another more generalized meaning––two opposite poles. Polarity is so prevalent in our world that we often don’t take notice of this.
No one is always happy or always sad. We all have highs and lows, depression and elation, so in fact, we are all to some degree bipolar. If we expand that out to the world at large, we find that everything has a duality of positive and negative, fast and slow, light and dark. It’s the way our universe works.
Here are 10 examples where the bipolar principle applies:
male – female
day – night
flexion – extension
particle – antiparticle
war – peace
hyperactive – underactive
summer – winter
health – ill-health
happy – sad
sensory nerves – motor nerves
How do you apply this to your life?
We grow up with the illusion that life should be one-sided: positive, happy and easy. When invariably, things don’t turn out that way, we become frustrated, angry or depressed. While positive thinking is a good state of mind, it is impossible to stay positive all the time. My experience has been that many people try to suppress negativity and ultimately it comes back to bite them.
I have seen some of the big gurus in the personal development and health fields who have promoted positive lifestyles and yet have succumbed to disaster in their relationships or their health. Recently, self-help guru, Wayne Dyer, passed away at the relatively young age of 75. He was also married three times. Obviously, despite his positive outlook on life, he had his challenges.
I have also seen individuals who are pessimistic, negative thinkers and never fulfill the promise that was there early in their lives and yet, somehow life bestows good fortune upon them.
The secret is to embrace both sides; the yin yang. There is tremendous value in discovering the opposite pole in any situation. If something is making you down, then there is value in searching what it is about the situation that is positive. If you feel very positive or elated about a situation or a person, discover some of the downsides. Often we don’t want to acknowledge these opposing views or we can’t see them. However, by searching you can integrate any event or person and you can get to the point where you simultaneously see both sides. When that occurs, neither emotion pushes your buttons. It becomes a revelation when you see that life operates that way.
Even though I was well-versed in the sciences with a knowledge of physics and chemistry and how chemicals with opposite charges bond, I didn’t connect the dots to the next level. When I met Dr. John Demartini, who spoke of duality which exists everywhere in the universe, it blew my mind. I saw that the most effective way of neutralizing stressful or emotional states was to ask the question, “What is the downside of this beneficial event?” Or, “What is the upside of this situation that I perceive as bad?”
Appreciate that the universe is in a balanced state and opposites do attract. It is this integration that empowers your life so that you are not a victim of a one-sided state.
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Editor’s Note: Dr Adele Thomas, semi-retired medical doctor, and Dr Ely Lazar, retired chiropractor, are on a new mission as the Passionate Retirees. They are dedicated to inspiring the over 50s to live fulfilling and adventurous lives, so that “the twilight years will be the highlight years”. Their book, “Travel Secrets For Seniors” was released in early 2014. With more than 80 years combined of professional experience, their articles, books and workshops cover a range of topics from travel, health, relationships, sexuality and finances for seniors.
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