Dear “Oh Carol:”
I’m married, but not happily so. I’m very attracted to the contractor we’ve hired to build our new garage. In subtle ways, he has let me know that he is interested in me, too. I’d like to take the first step, but what if I’ve misread him? Ready, Set, Go
AFL’s OH CAROL Answers……
AFL’s “Oh Carol,” Carol Ziegler
Dear “Ready, Set, Go:”
Hmmmm. Hmmmmm. Are you asking this question because you’re seeking permission? Well, you won’t get it from me. We’re all adults here and we all know that there are cases where a married person strays “ and the world doesn’t go to pieces. And we also know that a little attention from another can be temporarily good for the ego. But you’ve got a real problem, my dear, and you need to turn your attention and your energies to resolving it. You’re in a legally binding relationship that’s obviously broken. You’ve got to figure this out: is your marriage fixable. If it’s fixable, and you decide that you want to fix it, then that’s where your energies should be spent. If it’s not fixable (or you don’t want to fix it), then it needs to be dissolved.
Spend your time resolving your marriage issues first – and let the contractor get back to work!
