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Intimacy and Aging

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You’ve probably noticed that if the topic of intimacy and seniors comes up when your children or other young ones are around, that invariably you get a disgusted look appearing on their faces. Or you may get the response, “TMI” (Too Much Information).

The fact is that when it comes to sex, “It ain’t over till it’s over!”. Seniors are sexually active and can be so until well into their 90’s. In an interview, the well-known fitness guru, Jack Lalanne and his wife stated that they were still sexually active into their 90’s. Sex is a normal part of life and there is actually great benefit keeping it up into your later years.

Benefits

1. Sexual activity is pleasurable and is a form of intimate connection with your partner.  A healthy sex life usually indicates a degree of trust and bonding in a relationship.

2. Sexual activity is actually good for your cardiovascular system. Your heart rate goes up and there is a burning off of calories. It is far more beneficial than watching TV.orm of intimate connection with your partner. A healthy sex life usually indicates a degree of trust and bonding in a relationship.

3. Regular sexual activity can enhance the immune system and there have been various studies showing that to be true.

4. Sexual activity and orgasm has a physiological effect on the brain. It stimulates the release of endorphins (the “feel good chemicals”). This creates a general feeling of wellbeing. Some, during sexual activity and orgasm experience almost a meditative state.

5. Sex tends to reduce stress and anxiety. During sexual intercourse one becomes very focused and while it may be a form of escapism, it’s not a bad way to go.

Some Physiology and Challenges with Aging

Sexual response has two phases. The first is DESIRE and the second is AROUSAL.Some of us continue to have  much desire for a sexual relationship, well into our 90’s, even when there is not much opportunity to act on it, while many, both male and female, for various reasons, can lose the sense of passion and desire, even when there is a willing partner.

You’ve probably noticed that if the topic of sex and seniors comes up when your children or other young ones are around that invariably you get a disgusted look appearing on their faces. Or you may get a response, “TMI” (Too Much Information).

The fact is that when it comes to sex, “It ain’t over till it’s over!”. Seniors are sexually active and can be so until well into their 90’s. In an interview, the well-known fitness guru, Jack Lalanne and his wife stated that they were still sexually active into their 90’s. Sex is a normal part of life and there is actually a great benefit keeping it up into your later years.

While there may be desire and passion, there may be difficulties with getting aroused. For women, this may be hormonal or due to anatomical changes which make intercourse uncomfortable, which, of course, is distracting. For men, difficulty getting an erection can be very frustrating. For some men this is related to illnesses, medications or anxiety. While for the young, sexual performance may be taken for granted, as we age, there are certain problems that can impede sexual activity.

In men over the age of 65, there is a 60-70% chance of developing partial or total impotence. This is usually related to reduced blood flow. Circulation starts to suffer as we age and also conditions such as diabetes causes reduce blood flow leading to penile dysfunction. A reduction of the hormone Testosterone can also impair how a man functions. This can start even in the 40’s, but some men have no difficulty even into their 80’s and 90’s. Modern medicine is now very helpful.

One of the aspects that get ignored, is that, what stimulates arousal in men and women is different. Women are very good at creating sexual fantasies in their minds. Men, on the other hand, are visual. They need to see the actual arousing body parts or see pictures of them, which is why men tend to view pornography more than women.

When we were younger there was a degree of spontaneity about sex. As we age, we need to plan for comfort and find positions that do not aggravate our joints, etc. Ultimately, the basis of good sexual relationships is closeness and connection.

In conclusion, sex is normal and desirable; it’s part of life. Society is gradually accepting that this applies to seniors as well. Enjoy!

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Editor’s Note:  
Dr Adele Thomas, semi-retired medical doctor and Dr Ely Lazar, retired chiropractor, are on a new mission as the Passionate Retirees. They are dedicated to inspiring the over 50s to live fulfilling and adventurous lives, so that “the twilight years will be the highlight years”. Their book, “Travel Secrets For Seniors” was released in early 2014. With more than 80 years combined of professional experience, their articles, books and workshops cover a range of topics from travel, health, relationships, sexuality and finances for seniors.

“Adele and Ely have always impressed me with their exceptional knowledge, professionalism and positive attitude. Mention their name and the one word that always comes up is respect.” – John Ross, Master Networker 

Dr Adele Thomas, semi-retired medical doctor, and Dr Ely Lazar, a retired chiropractor, are the founders of Passionate Retirees. Their mission is to inspire the over 50s to live fulfilling lives with gusto, but most importantly to live their lives with Purpose. As the Passionate Retirees, Adele and Ely have more than 80 years of combined professional experience as health care professionals. This background and their life experience has made them well-versed in the areas of health, travel, relationships, sexuality and finances for the over 50s. They have published two books, Travel Secrets For Seniors and Relationship Secrets For Sexy Seniors, along with a free ebook, 7 Retirement Secrets Revealed. They are contributors to After Fifty Living and write articles and blogs on varied topics. In addition, the Passionate Retirees have been interviewed on radio and television, and they conduct workshops, most notably, 7 Secrets To A Purposeful Life. In October, 2016, they launch their new Podcast, Passionate Retirees: Life After 50. To contact Adele or Ely go to: passionateretirees.com or email them on info@passionateretirees.com. You can also “like” them on Facebook.

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