I want you to think: what was the best sex you ever had? You don’t have to tell anyone your answer but think back to that encounter. What made it the best? Was it who you were with? Where were you? Was it because you were feeling great about yourself?
What if I were to tell you that the best sex of your life could be in your future? Many believe that your sex life takes a turn for the worse as you age. Aging bodies, medical problems and procedures and the like can put a damper on your bedroom life, but it doesn’t have to! Great sex might take a bit more planning these days, but you and your partner are worth it!
Get regular exercise
You can work up quite a sweat in the bedroom, so it’s important to stay in shape to maintain your sexual stamina. But besides the obvious cardiovascular benefits of staying in shape for great sex, there are some mental benefits, too. When you exercise, your body releases chemicals in your brain that can make you happier and more relaxed. Who wants to have sex when they’re stressed or feeling depressed?
For women, exercise also increases body awareness and positivity. When you feel better about your body, it’s easier to feel “in the moment” and more aroused. For men, exercise has been linked with a lower risk of erectile dysfunction.
Try something new
If you’ve been with the same partner for some time and things have gotten a bit, um, routine, maybe it’s time to spice it up. It could be as easy as finding a new piece of lingerie or changing the time of day you initiate sex. Different sexual positions and even rooms in your house can make a difference.
Talk to your doctor
Many people of our generation are scared to talk about sex. But there’s no reason to be, especially with a medical professional. If you are having issues feeling aroused or performing sexually, it could be important to clue your doctor in. Many medicines and combinations of medicines can have sexual side effects, and with a bit of tweaking, your doctor may be able to help your situation.
Similarly, if you or your partner has just undergone a medical procedure, it’s important to talk to your doctor to find out when it is safe to return to normal sexual activity. Your medical professional may advise you to start slow and avoid certain sexual activities during recovery.
Talk about it
One of the biggest things that get in the way of great sex – and many other things – is lack of communication. Just as you should be able to talk to your doctor about your sex life, you most definitely should be able to talk with your partner. Problems in the bedroom could be solved as easily as having a conversation. Find out what your partner likes and doesn’t like. Find out what turns him/her on. And let them in on your sexual secrets, too. The more you know and feel comfortable, the better the sex will be.