So, you’ve had a few phone calls and you both agree to take the next step and meet. The “where” and “when” have been decided and all that’s left to do is show up. HOW you show up and the first thing your date sees is oh so very important. To make sure you make as good a first impression as possible, read on and follow these essential tips:
BE ON TIME!
Being late is disrespectful. It makes your date even more nervous because now they are worried about being stood up. Since most everyone has a cell phone, I have found it helpful to call (or be called) if there is some unexpected traffic that may cause a delay. I can’t tell you how many bonus points you will get by that simple act of kindness.
Maybe you’ve had some disappointing first dates. (lol @ maybe) You still have to show up and at least act as if you are hopeful. Don’t yawn. Don’t look around the room. Don’t look at your watch. Don’t look at your phone! Be engaged. Look into your date’s eyes. Seek redeeming qualities in them. We are grownups. If the date is awful, you can still stick it out for an hour. Be nice. Treat them the way you’d want to be treated if someone didn’t find you of interest. Although we try to put our best foot forward on a first date, some of us are nervous. Keeping eye contact and being pleasant will make a good impression even if you are tongue tied.
I’ve covered this before and probably will again because it is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Be freshly showered. Brush your teeth. If you haven’t been to a dentist in a while NOW is the time! YOU might be used to seeing your teeth all discolored or gunked up with plaque but I assure you, your date is not going to want to ever kiss you (or even consider the idea) unless you take care of your oral hygiene. If you smoke, do not smoke in your enclosed car just minutes before your date. You will reek. You may not realize it but you do! Whether you smoke or not …. ALWAYS CARRY BREATH MINTS AND POP ONE IN BEFORE GREETING YOUR DATE! If your first impression is bad breath or body odor, those are hard to get over. Chances are a second date will never happen!
GREET WITH A SMILE!
Now that your teeth are clean, remember to smile! A handshake, a quick hug, or a peck on the cheek is also a nice way to be greeted. Even if your first reaction is “OMG .. I can’t even”, just be nice! Go with what you feel comfortable with or what your date puts out. Make eye contact. Compliment your date. “I love your tie” “You smell great” “You look even better than you photo” “I like your smile” A little compliment goes a long way! If the date is really that awful, smile, be polite, have one drink or a cup of coffee and then excuse yourself. Making a good impression never hurts. Your date may know someone for you or have connections at that account you’ve been wanting to land.
These days most of our dates are via an online dating site so I suggest you come prepared with information that was in their profile. Most people love to talk about themselves so take notice of some of the things they listed as their interests and ask about them. Hopefully you will see a sparkle in their eyes as they talk about something they’re passionate about. Also, seek what your profiles had in common. If you both listed movies, or shows, ask what some of their favorites are. Imagine what a great impression it would make when your date shows that they actually took the time to read your profile!