Sex at any age is a powerful experience. Sex over the age of 50 can present challenges that may make you feel discouraged by issues connected with the aging process, but these problems are not insurmountable. With an open mind, you can continue to enjoy a physically and emotionally fulfilling sex life.
Studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you want. Naturally, sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways it can be better. As an older adult, you may feel wiser and know what works best for you when it comes to your sex life. With age also comes more self-confidence and self-awareness. With children grown, couples are better able to relax and enjoy one another without the old distractions.
For a number of reasons, though, many adults worry about sex in their later years, and end up turning away from sexual encounters. Some older adults feel embarrassed, either by their aging bodies or by their “performance,” while others are affected by illness or loss of a partner making a temporary situation turn into a permanent one. You can avoid letting this happen by being proactive. Whether you’re seeking to restart or improve your sex life, it’s important to be ready to try new things.
Personal relationships often take on a greater part of day to day life, and sex can be an important way of connecting. Sex has the power to improve mental and physical health. Sex can burn fat, cause the brain to release endorphins, and drastically reduce anxiety. Through its health-improving benefits, a good sex life can add years to your life.
Sex can also solidify relationships and help to make you feel closer to your partner. Sex is a chance to express the closeness of your deepest relationships.
Reap the benefits of experience. The independence and self-confidence that comes with age can be very attractive to your spouse or potential partners. No matter your gender, you may feel better about your body at 62 or 72 than you did at 22.
As you age,let go of expectations for your sex life. If you enjoyed an active sex life in your younger years, there’s no reason to slow down with age, unless you want to. It’s important to love and appreciate your older self. As bodies and feelings change as you grow older, it’s more important than ever to communicate your thoughts, fears, and desires with your partner. Encourage your partner to communicate fully with you, too. Speaking openly about sex may not come easily to you, but improving your communication will help both of you feel closer, and can make sex more pleasurable.
Expanding your definition of sex as we age is important as well. It’s not just about intercourse. Sex can also be about emotional pleasure, sensory pleasure, and relationship pleasure. Intercourse is only one way to have fulfilling sex. Touching, kissing, and other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding for both you and your partner. You might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions but taking on the challenge of coming up with alternatives can be liberating.
There is no age limit on sexuality, A National Council on Aging survey reports that among people age 60 and over who have regular intercourse, 74 percent of the men and 70 percent of the women find their sex lives more satisfying than when they were in their forties.