Author: Carol Ziegler
First Date Blues!
I’ve talked about pre-dating, i.e. writing your profile, getting ready to date, and spotting scammers. Now it’s time for the real deal. You’ve put your feet in the dating pool and you’ve had some dates. Some good, some not so good, most just so-so but for whatever reasons there were few second dates, whether it be by your choice or not. It’s ...Read More
First Date and After 50? Here’s 5 “No-No” Topics
Oh yes, we’ve all encountered it. Everything was going well and then – dah dah dah -the conversation takes a wrong turn and the next thing you know, the date you were previously enjoying gets all emotional, maybe angry – or sad. Or – have you ever noticed that your date seems to be fading away? You rewind (in your mind) the last few thi...Read More
Date After 50? 5 Tips to Get Started!
No matter our chronological age, when it comes to love we are all young inside. Many things have changed since our youthful, carefree days but some remain the same. We ask the same questions such as where to meet, and how to meet but the answers have changed. Dating After Fifty is quite different from being in our 20s, 30s, and 40s. Don’t let tha...Read More
Gettin’ Back on the Horse! (aka – Dating, After All These Years)
You’ve been separated/divorced/widowed “long enough” (whatever that is) and you’re starting to think that you’d like to get back on the proverbial horse and try dating again. You might think that it will be easy and you envision galloping off into the sunset with Mr. or Ms. Right. Well whoa there cowboy/girl, let’s get our expectations in check. Da...Read More
Speak Up or Clam Up
Dear “Oh Carol:” My neighbor’s husband died almost a year ago. She’s in her early 70’s and is not very computer savvy – although she does do some limited email. She and I and a couple of other women go out to eat every other week and I know she goes to the gym a couple times a week. Her daughter and her family live kind of close – but she really ha...Read More
What NOT to Eat on a First Date
♫ Food glorious food. Hot sausage and mustard ♫ I have an expression, “definitely NOT first date food,” that I’ve said often. Nothing kills romance like the proverbial spinach on one’s teeth. So, grab a messy snack, sit back, and enjoy this read! Coffee! Yep you read that right. No COFFEE DATES! First, it says that the other person isn’t willing t...Read More
Are You Being “Reeled In” by a Catfish?
By now I hope that you’ve read my last post on “How To Spot a Scammer” but maybe, somehow, your radar missed it. You find yourself actively chatting with someone but perhaps you’re a little suspicious? It’s obvious that English is not his first language but you’ve decided to overlook that, perhaps you even find it endearing. He’s telling you how b...Read More
How To Spot a Scammer – AKA Catfisher! My 5 Signs!
In the online dating world, scammers are called “Catfishers” and they are all over the dating sites. To “catfish” means to lure someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. They target everyone and you don’t have to be rich or dumb to fall victim to them. The common denominator is that you are online looking for love, which ...Read More
My Kids Give Alice a Tough Time
Dear “Oh Carol:” My former wife and I share custody of our two teenage daughters. I’ve met a wonderful woman (Alice) but things are getting difficult. My daughters treat Alice horribly. I’m afraid that if I punish them they’ll hate me – and if I don’t, that Alice will leave. What should I do? AFL’s OH CAROL Answers...Read More
5 Tips – Writing Your Dating Profile
Thinking about writing your dating profile? I could tell you stories ad infinitum about crazy things I’ve seen on profiles and spelling errors that make this writer’s eyeballs spin. I can’t stress enough the importance of getting it right. This is the very first impression someone will have of you. Don’t mess it up! ♫ gotta be cool, relax, get hip...Read More
Your First Phone Call? 5 Do’s and Don’ts
You’ve texted or messaged one another a few times and determined that you’d like to hear each other’s voices. This could make or break it for some people. So here are some tips on what TO say and what NOT to say: TONE OF VOICE (TOV) Have you ever answered your phone only to be met with “Oh hi”? as if you’re the last person they want to hear from? W...Read More
Okay To Wander?
Dear “Oh Carol:” I’m married, but not happily so. I’m very attracted to the contractor we’ve hired to build our new garage. In subtle ways, he has let me know that he is interested in me, too. I’d like to take the first step, but what if I’ve misread him? Ready, Set, Go AFL’s OH CAROL Answers…… Dear “R...Read More