Events in life have a way of humbling us. We all have those incidents that we may have perceived as negative, however, if we appreciate what occurred as a learning experience, we can benefit from it.
In January 2009, while skiing in Utah, Adele sustained a severe trauma. The result was a fractured hip that necessitated hip replacement surgery the following morning. At the time, I suffered emotional pain while Adele had the physical pain. Thankfully, the surgery went well and Adele’s hip healed well over the ensuing months and we still ski today. It would have been easy to fall into the “poor me” mindset and see just the negatives of the situation. From our knowledge, however, we started to list some benefits of the experience whereby we were able to bring our minds into a balanced state.
The experience was very humbling for both of us. Some people thought that it was an awful thing that happened and that it ruined our holiday. Luckily, it happened on the second to last day of our holiday and it turned out to be a great learning experience for both of us.
Here are some lessons that we learned:
- Listen to your body
We often get tired and rather than listening to our body, we push on and on, and invariably we get into trouble. Prior to Adele’s ski injury, we both felt tired after a full day’s skiing but we pushed on. That was a factor in Adele’s muscles giving out.
- Be careful what you wish for
When you wish for something, be careful; it may just come to pass but not in the form you intended. Our wishes often become true more often than we’d like to acknowledge. On the way up the ski slope, while on the chair lift I stated, “Wouldn’t it be nice to have another two weeks here?” I got my wish.
- Stick to a plan
Your first intentions are most often the correct ones. It is important to create a plan whether it is travel or life direction, however, we need some flexibility to modify our plan. The modification is only a contingency plan, so as a general rule stick to your plan.
- People are essentially the same
You may be in a different country with its customs and idiosyncrasies, but at their core people are the same and care about others. When Adele had her injury and surgery in Utah, the people were so caring and really looked after her.
- Never underestimate the healing wisdom of the body
Within every one of us there is an inherent intelligence that strives to maintain us in wellbeing as well as healing us when we are sick or traumatized. I witnessed this remarkable healing in Adele despite her being in here 60’s. Respect the wisdom within.
- Don’t take trauma lightly
Even trauma that happened years ago can throw the body off balance. The body is subject to the law of physics, so when forces are applied to it, they have to go somewhere. These absorbed forces create an impact, often to our detriment.
- Murphy’s Law
Events can happen out of your control. Things can go wrong and our perception of them can be negative. So be adaptable and don’t be addicted to a particular outcome––stuff does happen that is out of our control.
Editor’s Note: Dr Adele Thomas, semi-retired medical doctor, and Dr Ely Lazar, retired chiropractor, are on a new mission as the Passionate Retirees. They are dedicated to inspiring the over 50s to live fulfilling and adventurous lives, so that “the twilight years will be the highlight years”. Their book, “Travel Secrets For Seniors” was released in early 2014. With more than 80 years combined of professional experience, their articles, books and workshops cover a range of topics from travel, health, relationships, sexuality and finances for seniors.
“Adele and Ely have always impressed me with their exceptional knowledge, professionalism and positive attitude. Mention their name and the one word that always comes up is respect.” – John Ross, Master Networker