Frankly, it’s amazing. She’s only 6 lbs and 6 oz, yet she’s managed to turn my life upside down. I’m ashamed to say that I hadn’t really done a whole lot of thinking about what it really means to become a grandparent.
I remember learning that I was pregnant with my first child. I remember pausing, clearly thinking through what kind of parent I wanted to be, what lines I wouldn’t cross, which hot coals I’d be willing to walk over in bare feet. I decided then that the most important gift I could give my child, and those who’d follow, would be the gift of self-confidence. I wanted my children to feel secure in their own skins, secure in their own decisions, secure as they made their way in this complex world that they would not only survive, but actually thrive.
And they have thrived…on their own terms, in their own ways. And now they’ve become parents themselves.
While they are assuming their roles as parents, I’m quietly hovering in the background, beaming with pride, but with a lot of question marks floating in my brain. What do I want for this newly emerging generation? It may seem like a cop out, but I am hopeful that this next generation will brim with confidence and celebrate independence, just like their parents. But…how do I convey that?
Grandparents – and parents – teach by example. So this is what I’ll promise you, my little ones. I will show by example what it means to live a life of kindness. I’ll show how to appreciate the wonders of love, celebrate the glories of an independent mind, demonstrate respect for our fellow man and his or her opinion, and appreciate both knowledge and wisdom. In the end then, maybe you, too, like your parents, will be blessed with the kind of benevolent self-confidence that will encourage and support you as you strive to make this world a better place.
- New baby
- 6 lbs 6 oz
- sweetest thing ever