Wouldn’t that be amazing if we could live a life without absolutely any regrets? The best we can do in life though is try not to do things we will inevitably regret later. Here are 6 regrets you do NOT want to have in your life:
Holding on to a grudge
Someone once said “”Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” Being angry at someone hurts only you. Let go of your anger, not for the other person, but for yourself. Remember, forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. Forgiving means accepting that it happened. It’s not about the person who wronged you. It’s about who you want to be. The path to freedom from a grudge is not so much through forgiveness of the “other” (although this can be helpful), but rather through loving our own self.
It’s not too late to make new friends
It’s not too late to find that spontaneous companion you’ve been looking for. In fact, the timing may be just right. No one is more attractive to others than someone who is engaged in a lifestyle they’ve created for themselves. Whether you join a gym, start a class, or volunteer at a nonprofit, finding something that awakens your passions and places you in contact with the same people with the same passions.
Developing close friendships is kind of like dating. Don’t be too eager, too soon. Every friendship starts off with the exchange of a “hello”, a question or compliment. Real relationships take time to blossom. As two people get to know each other, the layers peel away until they fall into a comfortable groove where conversation flows naturally. Don’t expect too much too soon or act too needy, being open and honest will tell the other person you are open to new relationships.
Postponing an Estate Plan
Many people know they should prepare an estate plan, but they put it off. There are a lot of reasons people postpone estate planning. Some think it will be a lot of work, some believe they are too busy and some avoid it because they don’t like to think about the fact that someday they will not be around anymore. All of these reasons are very human and very understandable. If you are without a plan, you leave your heirs wondering about your wishes, which can lead to problems and infighting.
When you take the time to plan your estate, you remove that burden from them by letting them know exactly what you want.” It doesn’t matter if you’re single, have minimal assets, whatever, put a plan in writing. Estate planning is not something you should do on your deathbed. The time to do estate planning is when you are still healthy enough to make important decisions about your property and your family.
Few people think of estate planning as a fun way to spend time on a weekend. But with the help of an experienced estate planning attorney, it can be relatively easy and uncomplicated. And when it’s done, people can have the satisfaction of knowing that their loved ones will be taken care of when they are gone.
Ignoring Medical Screenings
For people over 50, regular checkups and a few special tests can be one of the greatest gifts you give yourself. Your doctor can tell a great deal about your health by talking to you, looking at you, and examining certain areas of your body. Whether you are seeing a gynecologist and/or a family doctor for your routine check-ups it is important that you know exactly what you need — and what to expect. Make sure you ask your doc when and how often to have these screenings: blood pressure, colonoscopy, PSA (prostate), mammogram, pelvic exam and pap smear, eye exam (macular degeneration, and glaucoma are common with age), cholesterol, vaccines (shingles, pneumococcal, flu shot, tetanus), and bone density. Of course, also ask about the frequency of tests for any specific ailments you suffer.
Don’t Let excuses or people derail you from your dreams
Someone once said “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” You are too young to give up on your dreams. Excuses are not reasons. There is a difference. Reasons are valid, excuses are not. And don’t listen to anyone else’s negativity either. When you identify the excuse that you typically use to get off track, you can create a no-tolerance policy for listening to your excuses. First, you have to identify and recognize that your roadblocks are really excuses and that you’re using them to get yourself off the hook. Pay attention to your most common excuse and then, when it shows up, you can recognize it and choose not to cave into it. While some excuses may be valid, instead of allowing them to derail you, use them to either get recommitted to why you are pursuing the goal in the first place or to make changes in the direction of your plan. Push the excuses aside and ensure you still move forward.
Waiting for the “perfect” time
Many of us wait for the “perfect time” with our health, nutrition, and fitness. There is no perfect time. There never will be. There is never a perfect time for you to launch that project, to spend time with your family, to write a book, change your habit, or embrace a new habit. Once you acknowledge this, you will get a lot more meaningful work done everyday. That’s not to say that there are times when you should not act immediately – like waiting to travel the world if you are drowning in debt. But generally speaking, now is all we have. Many people are living their entire lives without ever standing up and stepping out. But it’s exciting to witness the rare few who dare themselves and step out of their personal bubbles to make a change.