Dear “Oh Carol:”
I'm 52 yrs of age, separated for 3 yrs.
How is the best way to find the relationship that you want? I'm trying online dating, but it's not going too well. Suggestions?
I'm enjoying my life, and I'm in a good place in my life…but finding what I want seems to be hard.
52 and Single
Hello “52 and Single!”
Keep doing what you're doing – enjoying your life! Happy people are people that others want to be around.
“Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do.”
I am glad to read that you're trying online dating. It does have many highs and many lows so don't be discouraged and don't go for the first person that says complimentary things. There are some characters and players out there. Your eyes would pop if I told you some of the awful, inappropriate things that were said to me!
Get your dating do's and don'ts with the free sites like Plenty Of Fish and OK Cupid. See how it goes and have fun! Then try Match.com or OurTime.com. You will see many of the same people and some new ones too!
Things don't happen overnight for most people so keep on trying. Think back to your younger years. Did you hang out at bars or clubs or church or temple in an attempt to meet someone special? Did you stop going to those bars, clubs, churches, temples or whatever avenue you chose because you didn't meet someone? No, of course not. You went back again and again. Did you state that XYZ Club was terrible because you didn't meet someone? Or “don't go to that house of worship, no hotties there when I went last week!” Silly, right? All too often that is what people do with online dating sites. They have a few disappointments and are ready to quit. I suggest that you stick with it.
I also suggest that you develop hobbies or cultivate one you already have. Check out meetup.com. People form groups that meet up for all kinds of things from apple picking to zoo trips and everything in between!
Relax and don't take things too seriously. Find friends to hang out with, too. I made some new female friends solely for the purpose of being able to go listen to music or see a movie and not have to go alone.
Keep me posted!
Yours 4 love,