Recently the question “What are some things you realize as you get older?” was posted on the Quora community. Here are some of the best and most voted responses from the community:
Deepak Shukla, TedX Speaker. Ironman. Ultramarathon Runner.
- Relationships are more challenging Than any of your career ambitions
- Apparently, your mum was right after all
- The world is not out to get you.
- You make your own reality
- Most people lie, embellish, tell half truths, misrepresent.
- Trust in what you experience. Trust in 75% of what you read (even this post)
- Honesty is a fine thing. And pretty much impossible to find.
- There is no ‘relationship ideal’ so don’t shoot for it. Some people swing. Some people have open relationships. Some people get married and make something that doesn’t suit them ‘work’
- Develop a thick skin
- In whichever way you choose. Life is hard. You’ll need it
Nelson Wang, Co-founder at Habby.co
Find your spark – A few times in life you will find your spark. It could be that art class you took in Italy. It could be the startup that you work late into the night for. It could be that best friend of yours that inspires you to start a motivational website. When you find that spark, hold on to it. Nurture it. It will propel you to new heights and help you grow in ways you can’t even imagine.
Time heals – In a moment of stress, it can feel like the world is coming to an end. Our brains and bodies have been conditioned to be in “fight or flight” mode. So when we encounter tough situations, a lot of times we’ll have a physiological reaction to a perceived threat. That’s why humans are so quick to react in bad situations. We stress. We worry. We panic. The evolutionary purpose of this is really evident during prehistoric times. Often times a person would be in a position where they would have to make a choice quickly. If they didn’t react quickly, they might end up being dinner for a predator like a lion. Thus, the fight of flight response effectively removes “thinking” from this equation so that we could respond quickly to survive. However, times have changed and this type of reaction can often be a detriment. Nowadays, if you run into a moment of stress, anger or extreme sadness, don’t react immediately. Let yourself feel the emotions and give yourself some time to calm down and to think before reacting. Often times what I find is that by the time the next day has come, a lot of those heightened emotions have passed. Time heals. Embrace it.
You’re responsible for your own life – It’s easy to blame others. And yes, sometimes people will do things to you that suck. So what? Control what you can. Stop spending time with those people. Choose people that actually inspire you and make you a better person. You’re responsible for your own life. Make the hard decisions – you’ll have a better life for it. Even if you’re wrong, you’ll quickly learn from it and become a better person. You’re the CEO of your own life. Take control.
Joshua Otusanya, Stand Up Comedian, Accountant, YouTuber – ThisisJoshO
Adults Are Clueless – When you were a child you knew you could ask your parents or any adult a question knowing they had the answers to everything. When you get older you realize that most adults are clueless and are figuring out life just like everybody else!
Love Is A Double-Edged Sword – As beautiful as love is, it can also be a painful experience. Relationships aren’t perfect and you will experience heartbreak at some point. There’s no need to fear these things because they increase your sense of self and make you more emotionally mature.
Paul Mulwitz, Old guy who has learned much from the school of hard knocks.
Adulthood means being responsible for yourself. You get to decide how to live your life. If you always choose the easy path you will probably not get very far. If you choose to cheat you will probably wind up in prison. If you blame others for your fate – whether good or bad – you will never grow up.
Freedom vs debt: If you spend less than you make, you will build wealth and freedom (they are inseparable). If you borrow money to buy things you can’t yet afford, you will probably always be in debt and never have any real freedom. Sometimes it is necessary to borrow money to survive or live reasonably. This could be for buying a house or maybe a car. Most other purchases can wait for a long time or forever. Freedom is more important than having lots of stuff.
Mike Schoultz, A soul focused on continuous learning.
Never too late to start
I am closing in on 68, though I am told I do not look it. I certainly don’t feel it.
I am one that believes in the importance in continuous learning and trying lots of new things. You are never too late to start. I started writing this blog at 64.
I am the living proof that you (and only you) are what stands in the way of your current situation and your dream. Do yourself a favor and step out of your own way.
Just because someone is smart or wealthy doesn’t mean others will want to emulate that person. Incredibly successful people create an aura with their activity that makes people look up and take notice. Their work is purposeful, righteous, and worthy.
It’s easy to get down on yourself and let the inner critic run free when things aren’t going well, but that isn’t going to help you.
Instead, fight the urge to criticize and ask yourself if you can make a commitment that you will only bring forth positive energy for the remainder of the match. I’ve found that when you prioritize eliminating all negative thoughts, your focus automatically shifts to the positive ones and that in turn makes you more likely to enjoy and excel in the big moment.
It takes a lot of support to create success. Incredibly successful people are mindful of showing sincerely and often to those who help them achieve success. It’s not hard, the thought of leaving someone un-thanked never even enters their mind.