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Married or in a relationship...or wish you were? Or were you in a relationship that ended either through death, divorce, separation... What are the issues you face - especially now that you may be over fifty? What are some the benefits - and the drawbacks?

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Jo-Anne Hi all! Wondering how everyone is doing...Studentmom51 - sounds like you're pretty busy and that you're moving on. How about other folks???
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 1:49:01 PM EDT

studentmom51 Hello everyone, my name is Sue and I am from PA were I live with my two boys ages 17 and 20. I am here today in hopes of finding someone that I can come to know and develop a relationship with. I was married to my ex for almost 14 years when he left us. Over the next nine and half years we lived our separate lives. He did not sign the divorce papers, however he passed away November 29 from complications a previous heart attack, COPD, and emphasema. I am ready to move forward and meet men. I am self educated by earning several degrees, an associates, a bachelors and a masters, currently attending school as a student working towards a PhD.
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 11:41:01 PM EST

cheri7 Hello Again! Cheri7 BACK! I am Glad to be here with You! I was last here in 2010, and have re-read everything written since that time, and really See, that Underneath We are All having the same problems of loneliness, and really..."wondering...I think?" How to really Handle this period of our lives, no matter What we are...married, single (by whatever means) ______________ I am Dating. I am enjoying just "knowing people" My "gal pals" and my "men pals" It is good! _______________ I am still Online Dating... But, I find "more and more" after now going into 5 years being a widow.. That..."online" is one way to meet people.. But in the end... YOU really have to Meet the person. It is the Face to Face... and the... Getting to "know you" Nothing New People... and.. Friends are just Great!
Wed Dec 14, 2011, 7:03:28 PM EST

Nobleman I had been divorced for seven years, my wife, a recent widow. I was 58, she had just turned 55. I had belonged to a Christian Singles website for 2 1/2 years, she visited it one Sunday afternoon in her quest for a "boy friend store". We met that Sunday afternoon, started dating the following weekend and five months later, in July, 2005, we married. We've had nearly seven great years together and looking forward to the rest of our lives.
Wed Dec 14, 2011, 3:40:21 PM EST

wingnutt52 I guess I'm one of the lucky ones...just left a miserable 41 year marriage. Spouse was mentally and emotionally abusive and very controlling. I never could find the courage to leave until I reconnected with someone I had dated in HS and we found we still had deep feelings for each other. So, when spouse said to me for the umpteenth time to just leave. I did. Went to a good friend's home and called old flame. We have been seeing each other ever since and plan on being together when divorce is final. Try not to think about the what ifs..just happy we have found each other before it's too late.
Sat Nov 19, 2011, 12:12:53 PM EST

dontgoover55 how did you get over all the things your x has done to you?I too was in abusive marriage,broken bones and all,he continues to tell lies and still causes me problems even though he is married now to wife number 3.
Wed Jan 25, 2012, 5:12:35 AM EST

Nobleman Isn't it wonderful when those "old flames" show up at just the right time?
Wed Dec 14, 2011, 3:42:04 PM EST

dymondsandpearls I have been divorced after 24 years of marriage and am newly single. I am apprehensive about getting back into the dating circle. It has been a long time and I am not a young girl anymore. Dating is not like it used to be. I am taking it very slowly. Have not been out on a date as of yet because I didn't feel like I was ready. I am finding myself tired of being along and want some companionship maybe for a movie, occasional dinner, etc. Any advice.
Wed Oct 19, 2011, 11:01:52 PM EDT

Nobleman On our first date, my wife hadn't dated in many years. She was a widow after 30 years with a good man. She was so nervous her knees were knocking but had enough poise that I never suspected a thing. Don't push yourself, but go for it when you're ready. Choose your company carefully, even some of the old guys can be bums. Good luck, I wish you all the very best.
Wed Dec 14, 2011, 3:44:05 PM EST

barb Does anyone think that wanting to get married again is ridiculous? I think I am on the brink of breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 years... along the way he told me we would get married, than he said he lied and would never get married, than he said we would move into together (probably in my home) than he said he could never move into a house my ex-husband lived in even though I spent thousands to major renovations, buy new furniture etc... so, is it me or is it him? I am 50 years old and had a very bad marriage the last 5 years... husband cheated, too my money etc.I gave up on the marriage option but now I don't know where i stand at all in this relationship..
Sun Jun 19, 2011, 9:29:59 AM EDT

Nobleman Barb, dump him and move on. You're not that old, you have a life to live-- go for the gusto and don't waste your time with those who only want to play you. My wife's first glimpse of me was this: NOTICE; Geezer guy seeks geezer gal to share the thrills and chills of retirement; chills are assured, thrills are optional". She married me anyway. Good luck-- now get out there and live!
Wed Dec 14, 2011, 3:46:46 PM EST

LaCienga Hi Barb, Just a word from the "don't ask me how I know" corner. If you date someone who wants to move into your home whether he marries your or not, I would suggest consulting an attorney first. In my state, if I married a man and he lived in my home for a period of six months then half of the home would automatically be his. If the marriage didn't work out then I could very well lose half my property.
Sat Jul 2, 2011, 7:54:12 PM EDT

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Wed Jun 15, 2011, 8:29:57 AM EDT

jaggerapril I turned fifty in the spring and this is definitely the best part of my life. I was coming out of a long BAD marriage (almost 24 years) and needed more help caring for my two special needs children so planned a move to be near family. Wanted to develop friendships and connections in my new city so signed up on OKCUPID. I know, stupid name. Contacted someone with many similar interests but no romantic appeal to me. Found out we have the same values/worldview as well. He is 6 years younger, which is important because I have a LOT of energy! He also has a disability. In the months before my move, we spent hours emailing, texting, IM-ing, and talking on the phone. (I did meet him in person on a visit to family 2-3 weeks after we met online. Found out that he really was all that he seemed to be!) We became deep, close friends and then one week when I was having a particularly hard week and he was so kind and supportive, my romantic feelings started to grow, surprising me greatly! So on my next visit to the town, I kissed him and WOW! That was three months ago. We now live in the same town and both our companionship and "romantic life" are wonderful. This relationship is the best that either of us has ever had. There is DEFINITE chemistry between us now! Total honesty, no games, no trying to impress anyone. We even read relationship books, underline, write in them, and exchange! We will not marry, due to his disability and my kids, but we are SO happy together! He's my best friend, a great activity, partner, and so much MORE! My suggestion? Reach out to people whom you might not find attractive but admire. You never know what might happen!
Wed Jun 15, 2011, 8:29:46 AM EDT

StillKickinit61 One of the issues I have found at 61 is I am medically involved, with HBP and COPD. Most men do not want to have to deal with someone who is ill. I guess I cannot really blame them, but we have feelings, and are good people. But once men have found out I was ill, they found some reason not to see me again. I tell them I am not looking for support (money), I support myself and I expect the same from them. I just am looking for a friend or someone to hang out with, not a serious relationship, or marriage. Anyone else run into this?
Sun May 1, 2011, 12:55:45 AM EDT

AnnML OK I must be missing something here plenty of folks have HBP and or COPD. With the right meds you can do almost anything, maybe not win a foot race but it should not stop you from a normal life. Why are you telling these men your medical issues? What a turn off? No one wants to start a relationship off with someone who thinks they as sick. Who wants to be stuck with that? Why the big push on not needing support? Another turn off for men, they can tell if you are able to support yourself if you have a roof over your head. No wonder you are freaking them out. You need to step back, think about what makes you an interesting exciting 61 year old lady. Make a list of what you like to do, find some new things you want to learn. Talk about sports, even if you don't love them, learn to flirt again. NEVER talk about your health, ever (if you want a man).
Mon May 2, 2011, 4:50:19 PM EDT

Melting pot aspects unique to our youngish american culture give ambiguity to the post 50 relationship pursuit. Outside of the college family or peer forces at work there is struggle inherent. The early life dynamic is underscored by replication drives women and men operate by. As we are "set" in our ways it becomes increasingly difficult to accept life by the time lined identity we are left to deal with. I think we ought and need to utilize every bit of introspect and guile to advocate for ourselves in this climate.
Mon Apr 25, 2011, 6:30:26 PM EDT

NowAGrandma In most cities there are non-profit groups that help women out that are leaving with little to nothing of their own from marriages or bad relationships. I have worked for years with one in that helps teach women the skills they need to get jobs, set up checking accounts, while they also handle getting them housing and working on other things they may need to be able to stand on their own. A good place to start to find out about the resources in your city would be by contacting YWCA or YMCA, any large church will also have lists of connections (Catholic churches and archdioceses often have good resources or can help direct you to them, and NO you do not have to be Catholic for them to help you). Many of these groups will also help protect your location from ex's if necessary. Start making calls today, reaching out will show you there are ways out and give you the tools you may be looking for. Best of luck to you.
Thu Apr 21, 2011, 10:29:18 AM EDT

dontgoover55 Thank-You NowAGrandma. I had never thought about contacting the ywca for help. I'm needing the help that you mentioned about protection.I guess that is or would be another reason not to start to date even though my x is remarried,he is keeping tap's on me and Ii don't know where to turn to. I will call tomarrow.Thanks.
Wed Jan 25, 2012, 6:16:32 AM EST

KathyT Thank you for your advice. I will check out the Y near me to see if they can help. My daughter also told me of another place that helps women so I am checking that out too.
Fri Apr 22, 2011, 1:10:15 AM EDT

KathyT Looking to get a divorce but not able to afford a place of my own so I am staying (very reluctantly)in the marriage. Does anyone else have this problem???
Wed Apr 20, 2011, 11:26:30 PM EDT

naturescreations2009 EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!! But I am see the light at the end of the tunnel so to speak and hope to be able to do something about this rotten relationship in a couple of years if I can hang on that long.
Sun May 29, 2011, 9:32:35 PM EDT

KathyT Thank you for your idea but I have checked with all my friends already & none of them have any room or are going through troubles of their own.
Fri Apr 22, 2011, 1:13:36 AM EDT

Sailinggirl49 Have you considered looking for a roommate to share a place with? It would help lower your cost and give you someone to talk with too.
Thu Apr 21, 2011, 10:15:06 AM EDT

kdman4 I am new here. How does this work?
Thu Mar 3, 2011, 11:01:23 PM EST

Jo-Anne Hi Kdman4: YOu asked "How does this work." It's really simple. You can either raise a NEW issue about the topic (Relationships After 50) OR you can post a comment about what someone else has already written/commented. Sailinggirl49, for example, has said that "Sometimes it can be so very lonely." You might want to say something to her about that. Good luck, and Welcome Aboard!
Fri Mar 4, 2011, 7:37:55 AM EST

Sailinggirl49 All I know is that I would be thrilled to find someone to share these years with. Sometimes it can be so very lonely. I don't know though how to begin to find people to spend time with.
Tue Feb 8, 2011, 9:50:29 PM EST

prashotte I have the same problem. Just finding someone to do things with would be awesome!
Sun Mar 6, 2011, 6:34:52 PM EST

Resistor The ability to communicate is essential to all relationships. Stringing words together is not the same as communicating. The ability to listen should be more important than speaking. After all, we have one mouth, but two ears. You cannot communicate with anyone, unless you are first honest with yourself. The problem with seniors, is that they've had a lifetime to learn how to deceive themselves and selectively choose what they want to hear. This translates directly to problems in all relationships, new and old. This is also a foundational concept from which the basis for all interactions will either grow together or grow apart. While this may sound preachy, or geeky, that is not the intent. Once upon a time, this was covered in most texts on business communications. I love the truth, always. If the truth ain't in ya, What is? FWIW, I'm a broke old man, in Northwest Arkansas. I've avoided casting political aspersions, but I do have some strong opinions that directly affect who I call a friend, and who I call an enemy. I'm also considered a "doomer". The social, cultural and economic foundations of the USA have been completely destroyed. They are in the final stages of liquidating not only the USA, but much of the globe. And, time is short... Prepare accordingly. Or, ignore the warning. And, forgive me for talking too much. I really am better at listening.
Mon Dec 27, 2010, 9:53:48 PM EST

Alterette I am not looking to get married again but it would be nice to have someone around my age to go to movies or concerts (or just to talk). In effect, I'd just like someone to hang out with. I have an autistic child at home who takes most of my time, attention and energy, but every once in a while, I'd like to get away and do things with other "grown ups".
Wed Dec 22, 2010, 9:27:24 PM EST

ErikD I agree with you, it has taken me awhile to finally be ready to go out again. Then I realized that it is nice just to have some one to talk to or go to dinner with. Best of luck to you in your search.
Sat Feb 19, 2011, 9:20:06 PM EST

Suzeque04 I have had two loves in my life. The one I married lasted for 14 years, ended it divorce but remain friend.tthe other was kill in automobile vs semi-truck accident. Since his death I haven't dated much. I became a caregiver to my parents both gone now. After my moms death I moved in with my daughter and grandchildren along with her no good husband. Sorry,he as abusive to my daughter. He killed himself. We moved on. Problem is she has found someone and he is wonderful.I guess I'm jealous. I would love to have a relationship even if just as a companion, I don't know where to start. I feel its to late.
Mon Dec 13, 2010, 10:01:41 AM EST

StillKickinit61 I just came out of a 20 year relationship with a man 14 yrs my junior. He was 48, I am 61. I never dreamed he would terll me after 20 years he did not love me anymore. What a shocker that was! It has taken me almost a year to get over this man, now we can talk by phone and occasionally see each other and I am okay to an extent. Do i want to put myself through this again? Not on your life, but it would be nice to have someone to call as a friend to go out to a show or dinner or even dancing. Most men even at my age have very plainly told me they just want sex, or a fling, they are married. Not what I am looking for. The dating sites suck, I have visited them also. So, I guess the grocery store or the laundramat would be okay! I went from owning a mobile to selling it and moving into a tiny one bedroom apartment with most of my things left behind at the MH. He bought that from me! Oh well, new day, new start. I know it has to get better, doesn't it?
Sun May 1, 2011, 12:48:47 AM EDT

LovesToRead It is only too late when you are dead and gone, and you are not! I agree it is hard to get up and get out again, but it is worth it. More importantly you need to, and you deserve to find someone to enjoy the time you have left to you. Go out get a new outfit, a new pair of shoes, a mani pedi, whatever it takes. Talk to men at coffee shops, at book stores, shopping, go to baseball games, and take a cooking class or a continuing Ed class at a school near you. The more you get out, the more you start striking up conversations again with people, the more new people you will meet and before you know it, you will find someone again. But you can’t do it at home, you have to get out.
Sat Apr 2, 2011, 8:24:21 PM EDT

Alterette I'm not a jealous person but I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel sad that I won't have someone to grow old with. I'd like a companion myself.
Wed Dec 22, 2010, 9:28:39 PM EST

Fins2Left2008 I would like to begin dating again. But how to start.
Thu Nov 25, 2010, 3:06:46 PM EST

luchito I guess dating "after fifty" is a personal decision despite the family size you have at the time. You have one life to live and one single body to take care. All you have to do is be honest with yourself and be open to new experiences.
Sat Nov 6, 2010, 7:38:41 PM EDT

cheri7 I am a newly retired RN (as of this June 2010. I am a widow of 3 years now. I would not mind dating and companionship. Cheri7
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:16:00 AM EDT

ebppuid1 The only drawback I see to relationships at this point in life is that we may not have the same level of energy now than we did 30 or 40 years ago. That, and that the issues sometimes get complicated because of family.
Wed Sep 29, 2010, 1:27:12 PM EDT

LovesToRead I find that the more I get out and do things and get involved I remain helps me keep up my energy level. Of course I have to admit that it is not the same as it was when I was 20, it's not bad for 50.
Sat Apr 2, 2011, 8:09:59 PM EDT

HilaryCable Some of the energy issue is up to us. We're responsible for eating right, getting lots of exercise and keeping up with fitness information. yes, if you want to date a 20-year-old, after-50 energy would be an issue. Seek out people who share your fitness level and it shouldn't be an issue.
Sat Nov 6, 2010, 1:32:55 PM EDT

cheri7 Well, yes, our energy level does of course go down, but I have found my zest for living and doing things is as vital as ever! At this point in life we can really "take our time" and smell and Photograph the roses! A good pair of walking shoes, and yes lots of sleep helps!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:18:32 AM EDT

Chevy We all need someone else in our life, and yup, energy level can be an issue. But I take vitamins and get plenty of sleep - so it's not really a problem.
Fri Oct 1, 2010, 2:21:19 PM EDT

Louise I am a widow four years now. I have had one almost great relationship that I ended two months ago and want to know how long does it take to get a negative experience out of your system before trying a new relationship?
Sat Sep 4, 2010, 6:06:16 PM EDT

AnnML Louise, it has been about 8 months since you posted this. Have things gotten better for you?
Mon May 2, 2011, 10:18:58 PM EDT

cheri7 I agree with PaulT. You will know when it is out of your system, just as you knew when it was time to have a relationship to begin with. Go with what you feel is right, at the time it is right for you!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:20:50 AM EDT

PaulT You'll know when it's right. Probably didfferent for everyone.
Fri Sep 17, 2010, 10:06:31 AM EDT

Jo-Anne I think probably what's best is that you stop for a little while, and really think through that relationship. What worked well, what didn't. What did you like about him, and the relationship, and what didn't you like. I think if you take this approach, it will help you to really understand, to know, you - 'cause "you" is what matters. Once you fully coomprehend what you really and truly didn't like about this relationship, and what those factors were that you couldn't tolerate, then you will be ready tomove on. Take as much time as necessary. No one is holding a stop watch - and there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to self-understanding!
Fri Sep 10, 2010, 9:22:51 AM EDT

barb I am a 50 year old woman, divorced and have been dating someone for three years now.. I had a few very bad experiences in my marriage of 18 years but always thought that if I was lucky enough to meet someone that meant everything to me I would want to get married again.. I know some people say I'm crazy but I think marriage is so special, even though it didn't work for me the first time, I would be very willing to try it again... and I met my boyfriend online but I can appreciate the comments about the unpleasant experiences but I think you have to keep in mind that online dating is just like regular dating.. people you meet in a bar or anywhere else will lie through their teeth too.. it's not just limited to online people.. if they are liars that's what they are.. I guess it's up to us to make sure we find that out in a reasonable amount of time..
Mon Aug 16, 2010, 7:19:45 PM EDT

cheri7 I agree totally with this. Take your time and people will show what they really are!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:23:16 AM EDT

Jo-Anne So true, so true. Great people can be found in all kinds of settings, including online.
Mon Aug 16, 2010, 9:34:50 PM EDT

Chevy Who has time for dating anyway? And who wants to? Been married before - and that was enough.
Mon Jul 26, 2010, 10:23:13 AM EDT

katiegirl Cheri7 - hooray! I've been trying to tell my friends this or years. Why does everyone think that they have no life if there's not a man in it. Would I love a companion to share my life with - sure. but I really don't even think about it. I'm too busy. Having a man is not the be all an end all of life. First you have to love yourself and develop your own life - you may just find out you're happier without the drama.
Sun Oct 16, 2011, 12:53:27 PM EDT

ErikD Chevy, I used to feel the same after my wife and I split. But to be honest I’m beginning to realize that even if I don’t marry again that it is nice to have someone to date again. Who knows perhaps some day I will be ready to get married again. Have you changed your thoughts on dating?
Sat Feb 19, 2011, 9:15:16 PM EST

cheri7 Well, that certainly is a personal decision. It is all in what the individual wants. You don't have to be in a relationship to have a fulfilling life to be sure!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:24:44 AM EDT

Sailinggirl49 Looks like you're putting the cart before the horse. We all need someone in our lives. So start by trying to develo a good relationship and don't get hung up on the marriage thing.
Sun Aug 1, 2010, 8:21:08 PM EDT

Tony Marriage is great - with the right person! If you're not with the right person, then it can be hell. You sound a little soured on marriage, Chevy. You just need to figure out who the right person is for you.
Tue Jul 27, 2010, 5:16:46 PM EDT

ebppuid1 Online dating - is it really that different than regular dating? I think it may be a little different because online you can "hide" or "pretend" about yourself more than you can in person. Just got to be careful!
Sun Jul 25, 2010, 9:59:34 PM EDT

cheri7 Online dating is different than regular dating. You are correct. One must be very careful. However, there are many good people there and outside of there. A person can "hide" in person also. You must be very careful in both areas! Careful and taking time to get to know someone is the key here!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:28:04 AM EDT

Jo-Anne DebbieMe - what a great story! How great to hear that you not only found a loving spouse, but you acquired a great friend, too! Regarding your online dating experience, if this Relationship Forum is any measure, it seems like more of us After Fiftiers have had difficult online dating experiences than good ones.
Fri Jul 30, 2010, 2:30:01 PM EDT

DebbieMe I have tried online dating and it was a disaster for me. I met someone who really wasn't what he seemed to be. Took awhile for me to realize. For me, I decided "never again"! I decided to do it the old fashioned way. I am now very happily married to a man that I met over 5 years ago. We started out as friends and today he is my best friend and husband!
Fri Jul 30, 2010, 2:18:52 PM EDT

I've tried online dating 2 times, neither worked out very well. One reason was we didn't take the time to really get to know each other through emails, photos, telephone etc. Also, the other site I used had you jumping through all kinds of hoops, and I got tired of that. I suppose it was for the safety of its members, but I'm not that computer literate and it was a chore for me to mange all they wanted. I'm willing to try again, but I'm wondering if I really want a relationship right now. I'm always open to making new friends, and hope to use this site to do that for right now.
Sat Jul 17, 2010, 12:09:39 AM EDT

AnnML Cheri7, You make some very good points on dating in the new dating age for evceryone. I agree sometimes people think the on-line sites will fix everything. We forget it takes time to build up a friendship or a relationship.
Mon May 2, 2011, 10:16:13 PM EDT

cheri7 Online dating can be very tricky to be sure! Yes, the best way is e-mails and only when you are comfortable and have followed the rules of not too much information, then talking on the phone, then meeting in public. It is really only in finally meeting and taking the time to get to know someone.."in person" and becoming friends, or not, that you will know if it is a good thing! Relationships worthwhile take time and the necessary work put into them!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:32:18 AM EDT

Jo-Anne Welcome to Relationships After 50, Michele! It sounds like your experience with online dating has been very, very interesting. I think you're absolutely right - you really do need to take time to get to know people, if you want the relationship to be "successful!" Do you agree? I think I know what site you're referring to that makes you "jump through hoops." Problem is, it's not very After Fifty Friendly. With all relationships, I think candor, openness, and honesty are key ingredients. Let's keep up the conversation!
Sat Jul 17, 2010, 8:40:40 AM EDT

Jo-Anne I have a friend who found himself unexpectedly divorced after 25+ years of marriage. After the bitterness subsided, he toyed with the idea of dating again, but didn't know where to begin. We suggested he try online dating sites. Any thoughts about these sites?
Sun Jun 6, 2010, 8:03:27 PM EDT

Flora51 Hi. I am a newbie also. In the 9 1/2 years I've been single, I have had several bad experiences and only 2 good with online dating. most of the bad were just that the men totally misrepresented themselves and I know women who do this also. the two that I say were good experiences were men who were who they said they were and we continued to date for a good period of time. Dating is just hard period. Mutual love is so rare and seems to be more so when you get older. There are less truly available people out there. many married people pretending to be single and many damaged people with deep seated issues like drugs, alcohol or sexual addictions or bitterness that they cant overcome. At this point in my life, I have given up on dating and I'm ok with that. I have enjoyed reading what everyone has to say. many of you have expressed all of the feelings I am having and it makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one out there. thanks all.
Mon Mar 14, 2011, 11:38:25 PM EDT

veggiedip Hi all - I am Beth, a newbie! I have a 70 year old friend that is trying to meet people on the "regular" online dating sites - big mistake, big disaster! Now with that said - I met a man online 12 years ago (before online dating became so popular, and became a money making vehicle) we met on a audio chat program that hosted karaoke - he was singing and I got instantly hooked LOL - we talked online, e-mailed, phone calls, and after 5 months he came to Nashville so we could meet face to face. He told me online he lived in Canada and was a police officer (I was a bit freaked out, thought to myself as I rolled my eyes "what a line". After several months later I moved to Canada. This man became my husband, best friend, confidant and lover - We will be married 12 years in March. I was hoping to meet new friends in the Asheville, NC area by this site, that my husband and I can get to know, maybe have dinner, or coffee - that kind of thing. We are both retired and look forward to new friends, we are new to the area.
Wed Dec 8, 2010, 3:42:52 PM EST

cheri7 Hello Jo-Anne. The online dating sites do vary, but "the rules" remain the same. As in any area, you find both people you can and cannot relate to. With online dating you need to be careful. I have been doing it for a little over a year now, and have been dating. I find it best to get to know them on line first, use reasonable precautions, and not give out much information until you are sure you feel comfortable, and doing a "little checking" does not hurt. I think it is best to at first talk on the site, and when your "comfort level" is ready, speak on your personal e-mail, then the phone and finally met out in the open. I don't give out any information I am not comfortable with. When you finally met, you will know if you like each other, and proceed as you are comfortable with. Dating and friendships are great! Why rush into anything! If something special is to happen, it will!
Fri Oct 15, 2010, 3:39:13 AM EDT

Sailinggirl49 How nice for you, Kathy1951. I'm looking and I hope I have the luck you had.
Sun Aug 1, 2010, 8:22:20 PM EDT

Kathy1951 If you are careful on the online dating sites, it can be a good experience. I have been with my sweetheart, whom I met through the internet, for almost 8 years now and he is a wonderful man! It is unfortunate that some people do misrepresent themselves on the internet which is silly because once you meet and get to know them, the truth comes out. If you email/chat/talk for a while and the person seems sincere, meet for coffee in a public place and see if you "click"!
Sat Jul 31, 2010, 8:29:04 PM EDT

Jo-Anne It's great to hear Plenitud 56's story of success with online dating. And her words of advice are so-o-o true - exercise good judgment at all times.
Wed Jul 7, 2010, 6:04:46 PM EDT

Plenitud 56 PLENITUD 56

I met my husband 8 years ago on a dating site called www Kiss .com. I later found out that two of my friends also found their husband on the same site. We were fortunate because we found people with similar interests in life. Not all on-line dating experiences are positive, I know that too, but I found the love of my life.
We spent many hours "chatting" on line to get to know each other and understand each other's way of thinking and values. We exchanged photographs and spoke on the phone at-length before we actually met in person. We found that our backgrounds had many things in common. It is worth a try but good judgment needs to be exercised.

Wed Jul 7, 2010, 11:26:49 AM EDT

ANN007 People do not always represent themselves honestly on these sites.
Tue Jul 6, 2010, 1:56:19 AM EDT

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