katiegirl I consider myself a strong, independant woman; but I'm also soft and very loving. I have been married, I have a wonderful son and he and his wife are expecting my first grandchild. My life is very full. I have many friends but also like to be alone. I love myself, and I think that is the 1st step to a good relationship. Would I like to have a companion - yes. Have I met him - no. (Men don't really like strong, independant women - they want someone to take care of them. Sorry I already raised my son) And I'm to busy - and happy- to worry about it. I had a great career, but am enjoying every second of my "2nd" life. I wish that for every woman.
Oct 16, 2011, 12:37 PM EDT
Oct 16, 2011, 12:37 PM EDT
dagokid You sound happy here, and, I hope you still are. Someone is only worth your time and love if they appreciate YOU for who YOU ARE :)
Jun 24, 2012, 2:55 PM EDT
Jun 24, 2012, 2:55 PM EDT
StillKickinit61 I have investigated almost all of the dating sites out there that you can access without paying for them. They show you pictures and profiles, and what a mess. The men are far from anyone I would date or even look twice at. That is starting from the age of 49 to 65. The ones who are slightly handsome, are the ones you just know are going to get a partner first. I was in a 20 year relationship with a man, loved him dearly, and one year ago he told me he no longer loved me. He was 48 I am 61. I told him back when we started dating I knew someday this would happen, but never after 20 years of being together. So, I figured that I would look for someone to have a dinner with or go out for a walk with or anything like that. The "pigs" that responded, were married and wanted a fling on the side. I am not interested in a fling, but I refuse to put myself through heartbreak again! I cried for four months...I am just now enough over him that I can still see him as a friend, like I help him with his computer problems, and he has our parrots, so I talk to him on the phone too. It still hurts, and there is still a small hole in my heart. Also most of the men's profiles I read wanted someone petite and sexy...really?!, at 61 years old and two kids later. I never lie, I tell them I am average looks and average build with a few extra pounds. (lol - working on that) But I am an American woman, and proud of it, I worked hard all of my life and never leached off of anyone. I was married once for 18 years to my sons father, another scum for 8 months, he leached off of me, and then my last relationship, no marriage, just 20 wonderful years together, or so I thought.
May 1, 2011, 12:39 AM EDT
May 1, 2011, 12:39 AM EDT
BSD10 Still Kicking,I hear and feel your experiences ,but you must come to a place where you can accept what has happened and move on.In this respect what you found is that life treats us harshly in many cases and that you must find the good to focus on.
Oct 16, 2011, 4:03 PM EDT
Oct 16, 2011, 4:03 PM EDT
StillKickinit61 I have investigated almost all of the dating sites out there that you can access without paying for them. They show you pictures and profiles, and what a mess. The men are far from anyone I would date or even look twice at. That is starting from the age of 49 to 65. The ones who are slightly handsome, are the ones you just know are going to get a partner first. I was in a 20 year relationship with a man, loved him dearly, and one year ago he told me he no longer loved me. He was 48 I am 61. I told him back when we started dating I knew someday this would happen, but never after 20 years of being together. So, I figured that I would look for someone to have a dinner with or go out for a walk with or anything like that. The "pigs" that responded, were married and wanted a fling on the side. I am not interested in a fling, but I refuse to put myself through heartbreak again! I cried for four months...I am just now enough over him that I can still see him as a friend, like I help him with his computer problems, and he has our parrots, so I talk to him on the phone too. It still hurts, and there is still a small hole in my heart. Also most of the men's profiles I read wanted someone petite and sexy...really?!, at 61 years old and two kids later. I never lie, I tell them I am average looks and average build with a few extra pounds. (lol - working on that) But I am an American woman, and proud of it, I worked hard all of my life and never leached off of anyone. I was married once for 18 years to my sons father, another scum for 8 months, he leached off of me, and then my last relationship, no marriage, just 20 wonderful years together, or so I thought.
May 1, 2011, 12:38 AM EDT
May 1, 2011, 12:38 AM EDT
Jo-Anne luchito - what are your thoughts about this topic - I think it's way off base.
Apr 2, 2011, 8:47 AM EDT
Apr 2, 2011, 8:47 AM EDT
Jo-Anne I'm a little perplexed by this forum topic. And I have to agree that nanadiana is on the right track!
Apr 2, 2011, 8:37 AM EDT
Apr 2, 2011, 8:37 AM EDT
nanadiana I think BSD10 was trying to make a rather idiotic point. Women in America are taught that they are equal, not subservient. My husband was a Merchant Marine for 25 years, he is also originally from the Philippines. He always knew that women in other countries would approach him and try to catch him in their snare; not because they were in love with him but becasue they wanted to become Americans, they wanted to escape poverty and being treated like servants by the men in their own country. Thankfully, he was smart enough not to fall for their crap. After 37 years of marriage and the last 12 of him being state side he has always treated me like an equal and took care of the family as a man should. I have a career of my own and now he is ill and he needs my care. I do it because I love him, but even more so because he always treated me with respect...we are equal partners. Nothing wrong with the "gals" in America...perhaps it is you.
Feb 20, 2011, 12:07 AM EST
Feb 20, 2011, 12:07 AM EST
PaulT I have to agree with Sailing Girl, perhaps you need to reconsider the ladies you are trying to meet.
Feb 3, 2011, 1:22 PM EST
Feb 3, 2011, 1:22 PM EST
BSD10 While I agree and admire the relationship Nana has with her spouse,she is hardly qualified to judge my personal and rather unique set of experiences. The details are legnthy, covering 35 offices I opened as CEO of an American stock brokerage corp.I lived amongst the citizens and spoke the language.The culture level was huge as my whole life I had been curious of Asia,So.America.Europe and reveled in its glorys.Since I lived from 6mos to 3 years per location ,naturally I had lovers.True lovers.Leaving was devistating but the price of wealth for my children beyond many lifetimes via a tax free trust.I live modestly.It was for them.
Oct 16, 2011, 4:20 PM EDT
Oct 16, 2011, 4:20 PM EDT
Sailinggirl49 Perhaps the difficulties you are running into have to do with the fact that women who live in the US are not blown over just by meeting an American. The “gals” you were hanging out with were looking at you as a meal ticket or a way to the US and new opportunities. It looks like you may have to spend more time learning how to be a gentleman and about dating in the new age when women have as many opportunities as men.
Jan 21, 2011, 3:36 PM EST
Jan 21, 2011, 3:36 PM EST
BSD10 OK ,here is the deal. American men and women expect so much from the world at large . They are just now having to adjust to the "real" world.We and I DO INCLUDE MYSELF ESPECIALLY , BELIEVED THE REST OF THE WORLD WAS "FOREIGN" IN THAT IT REALLY DID NOT EFFECT US, we WENT ON OUR BABY SHEEPISH WAYS BEING QUIET,SUBCONSCIOUSLY dreaming of the luxuries of life without even believing they were such. We were entitled to them.They were on TV,in movies, magazines,SPOKEN OF Everywhere.Where are you now.Eh? Just live in 68 nations and find out.
Jan 11, 2011, 12:40 PM EST
Jan 11, 2011, 12:40 PM EST