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“OH CAROL:”

I’m 58 and have a couple of medical issues.  These are high blood pressure and diabetes.  I’m finding that men don’t want to deal with this - with anyone who has been ill.  I’ll go out and we seem to have a good time but then they never call back.  I’m not looking for anyone to take care of me - I take good care of myself and I guess I expect them to take care of themselves, too.  Am I the only one with this problem?

What’s the Prescription?



LOVE ‘N LIFE’S “OH CAROL” ANSWERS:

Dear “What’s the Prescription:”

High blood pressure and diabetes are nothing to sneeze at but certainly not uncommon in people that are "After Fifty". I've met and/or chatted with many men that have either or both of these conditions.

Here is my advice. DON'T TELL THEM!! I am not saying that you should lie or keep it a secret and never tell. I am saying that people don't need to know everything prior to meeting or upon the first few dates. There's an old expression "warts and all" and I gotta say, I'd really rather not know about your warts until I already like you and then your warts will then shrink to little bumps.

My friend (who is still in her 40s) recently spoke to a man for the first time. On that call he told her that he has gout. Why on earth did he feel the need to tell her that before they even got to the point of flirting? Once she heard that, she was done. You never know what will turn people off and at that stage of the dating game, you've got nothing to lose by passing up on a man or woman.

I just remembered a time when I was on a date. The waiter took our drink order. I ordered a cocktail and he ordered cranberry juice. He then turned to me and shared that he was on an antibiotic for colitis and couldn't have alcohol. Oh yes because his bowel issues are something I'd like to hear about just prior to ordering dinner! He could simply have said that he was taking a temporary medicine that doesn't mix with alcohol. Not a lie and much better for dating!

You may have some dietary restrictions due to both conditions. DON'T announce them. If you are having dinner, order what you know is safe. If you can have an alcoholic beverage then do so. If you can't, just say that you are not a drinker (you might want to assure him that you are not a recovering alcoholic) and order a soft drink. Be happy and charming and leave your "warts" home!

The song I am humming is "Doctor Doctor, give me the news, I got a bad case of ..."  Leave your medical discussions for your doctors and not for your dates!

Your 4 love,
Carol

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