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“OH CAROL:”

My husband is very critical.  He makes horrible remarks about the way I look, about the food I prepare, about everything I do.  The cutting remarks hurt my feelings. I have tried to share how much I am hurt, but he just thinks it’s funny. I know I am a sensitive person, but I am feeling worse about myself all the time. What should I do?
Cut To The Core



LOVE ‘N LIFE’S “OH CAROL” ANSWERS:

Dear “Cut:”

Of course you are feeling worse about yourself and what he says hurts your feelings!  Your husband sounds like an immature, insecure buffoon. He does that because he suffers from low self esteem. I am sorry to be so blunt but really, what IS he thinking?!

Obviously sharing how it hurts doesn't work so how about some reverse psychology? Get some truly horrible clothes and don't wear any make up or wear your make up outlandishly. As for food, cook plain with no seasoning OR go the extreme and put some hot peppers in everything. Let's "Give'm something to talk about." Do NOT do his laundry or clean up after him (if you already are doing that). Either stop doing or go over the top and over do. Throw him for a loop.

While you are doing that, seek counseling. Putting up with a man that treats you that way shows how low your self esteem is. You need to find ways to boost it and being with him only tears it down., He does this to you because HIS self esteem is so low that in that moment, it makes him feel better to put you down.

No one deserves to be treated like that. I really hope you seek counseling and come out of the ether and see how debilitating he is to you and your marriage.

Yours 4 love,
Carol

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