Sex & Romance

Speak Up or Clam Up

Dear “Oh Carol:” My neighbor’s husband died almost a year ago. She’s in her early 70’s and is not very computer savvy – although she does do some limited email. She and I and a couple of other women go out to eat every other week and I know she goes to the gym a couple times a week. Her daughter and her family live kind of close – but she really ha...Read More

10 Things You Should Know About Sex After 50


Like red wine, certain things can get better with age. Don’t think that if you’re in the over-50 crowd, you have to settle for a less-than-fulfilling sex life. You can still enjoy sex, you just may have to put a little more planning into it than you did when you were younger.  Recent studies show that people maintain active sex lives well into thei...Read More

What NOT to Eat on a First Date

♫ Food glorious food. Hot sausage and mustard ♫ I have an expression, “definitely NOT first date food,” that I’ve said often.  Nothing kills romance like the proverbial spinach on one’s teeth. So, grab a messy snack, sit back, and enjoy this read! Coffee! Yep you read that right. No COFFEE DATES! First, it says that the other person isn’t willing t...Read More

Date After 50? 5 Tips to Get Started!

No matter our chronological age, when it comes to love we are all young inside. Many things have changed since our youthful, carefree days but some remain the same. We ask the same questions such as where to meet, and how to meet but the answers have changed.  Dating After Fifty is quite different from being in our 20s, 30s, and 40s.  Don’t let tha...Read More

Are You Being “Reeled In” by a Catfish?

By now I hope that you’ve read my last post on “How To Spot a Scammer” but maybe, somehow, your radar missed it.  You find yourself actively chatting with someone but perhaps you’re a little suspicious? It’s obvious that English is not his first language but you’ve decided to overlook that, perhaps you even find it endearing. He’s telling you how b...Read More

How To Spot a Scammer – AKA Catfisher! My 5 Signs!

In the online dating world, scammers are called “Catfishers” and they are all over the dating sites. To “catfish” means to lure someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona.  They target everyone and you don’t have to be rich or dumb to fall victim to them. The common denominator is that you are online looking for love, which ...Read More

My Kids Give Alice a Tough Time

Dear “Oh Carol:” My former wife and I share custody of our two teenage daughters.  I’ve met a wonderful woman (Alice) but things are getting difficult.  My daughters treat Alice horribly.  I’m afraid that if I punish them they’ll hate me – and if I don’t, that Alice will leave.  What should I do? AFL’s OH CAROL Answers...Read More

5 Tips – Writing Your Dating Profile

I could tell you stories ad infinitum about crazy things I’ve seen on profiles and spelling errors that make this writer’s eyeballs spin. I can’t stress enough the importance of getting it right. This is the very first impression someone will have of you. Don’t mess it up! ♫ gotta be cool, relax, get hip ♫ Short & Sweet: We want to share everyt...Read More

Want to Increase Your Longevity? Here’s 7 Simple Strategies

Today life expectancy in the Western World is greater than it has ever been. It has not been by accident, and there are numerous reasons this has taken place. Some of these are obvious, some not so much. There are, of course, no guarantees. We can find individuals who have abused their bodies and yet live to a ripe old age. Others who do all the “r...Read More

Your First Phone Call? 5 Do’s and Don’ts

You’ve texted or messaged one another a few times and determined that you’d like to hear each other’s voices. This could make or break it for some people. So here are some tips on what TO say and what NOT to say: TONE OF VOICE (TOV) Have you ever answered your phone only to be met with “Oh hi”? as if you’re the last person they want to hear from? W...Read More

Okay To Wander?

Dear “Oh Carol:” I’m married, but not happily so.  I’m very attracted to the contractor we’ve hired to build our new garage.  In subtle ways, he has let me know that he is interested in me, too.  I’d like to take the first step, but what if I’ve misread him?  Ready, Set, Go AFL’s OH CAROL Answers……   Dear “R...Read More

Need a Lifestyle “Do-Over?” Here’s 8 Great Steps – Just for Us!

Here’s a truth.  It’s simple.  After Fifty, opportunities for “do-overs” are few and far between. A friend colored my hair for me. Kind of a friend.  And, thank heavens I know someone who can strip out this awful color.  Ahhhh, thanks for do-overs!  But other situations, sometimes with far reaching implications, just can’t be R...Read More

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