10. Do not call us anything that you would also call a person under age 8 unless that person happens to have the same name as ours. That includes ““Young fella” “Sweetie,” or worst of all, “Young lady” or “Young man.”
9. Don’t start a sentence with the words “you used to be…”. The implication is that I am no longer that thing. You used to be beautiful. You used to be a great dancer. Treat and say the same thing you would say to us as you would any age group. Practice courtesy. Never say anything in a condescending or patronizing manner to us.
8. Never approach us in a store and ask if we would be happier shopping in another section. This section is the newest in fashion.
7. Just because we’re in jeans and sweatshirt doesn’t mean we don’t have money.
6. Don’t tell us we wouldn’t understand something when we’re making a purchasing decision. Most of us are smart enough to bring someone with us who knows more than the salesperson.
5. If you have a legitimate reason for asking our age, don’t say anything like “how many years young are you?. Never say anything that indicates you are considering them to be “different” than other people because they are “older”.
4. Don’t call us “grandma” or “grandma” unless, of course, we really are your grandparents.
3. Never ask “What is it like to know that you’ll die soon, as in being very old?”.
2. Don’t try to encourage us by telling about the 90-year-old woman you know who ran a marathon. We know what we can do, and hearing that some physical marvel can literally run rings around us does not help.
- Don’t criticize their outdated clothes or shoes, the wrinkles on their face, or the kind of jewelry they wear.